I recently read a blog post from a girl that had been married for about a year, talking about how marriage wasn’t hard. How life was hard, and that in fact, marriage should not be hard at all.
I disagree.
We’re still in a young marriage, only two years and some change. But I can tell you that marriage IS hard. It’s hard when you have to sacrifice the things that you thought you wanted because they don’t fit the same anymore. It’s hard when you get pregnant on accident and you suddenly have to reevaluate every plan you’ve made together, and there’s resentment there. It’s hard when you’re throwing up every morning and he doesn’t know the routine that your mom used to go through every time you ever got sick. It’s hard when you learn that your baby is dying and he doesn’t react the way you think he should, and you have to go through this massive learning curve because you grieve differently. It’s HARD to live every day loving someone that isn’t perfect and annoys you and knows how to get under your skin.
BUT….
It’s worth it. This hard life we live together is worth it for the laughter and the joy that is in every day. It’s worth it for the millions of times I’ve broken down and he doesn’t understand but he holds me anyways. It’s worth it for the hiking trips and him pushing me to be the best I can be. It’s worth it for the beautiful life we’re building together.
The happy moments outweigh the hard ones.
And I’m proud that we can get through the hard days to enjoy the good ones.
I’m proud of him. And he’s proud of me.